Be A Rebel!

How Just Saying No May Just Save Your Life

I never considered myself a rebel growing up–unless you count having long hair and sideburns during the 60s and 70s, or using contemporary chords in my songs that some felt played to the “baser instincts” (I still smile with this critique I got from some of the “gatekeepers” in the church), or when I became a pastor not wanting to preach traditional sermons in style and content to instead stretch theological boundaries and congregational methodologies.

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Maybe some of those things could be considered “rebel”-like? But really, me a Rebel?

But the older I get, the more I realize how significant it is to learn how to say No to some things in order to say Yes to others. And especially to learn which are the more important things to push back against and push forward toward.

I read this week a powerful quote from the author Gregg Levoy which really helps to contextualize what it means to be a Rebel. Notice this …

It’s Spring! Time for Butterflies!

A Metaphor About Change, Transition, Courage, and New Life

Springtime is about embracing new life, renewal, transformation, new growth. It’s the perfect opportunity to reflect on what’s happening inside us and what wants to emerge in powerful new ways.

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The butterfly’s metamorphosis process is quite a profound metaphor for personal transformation and development.  I wrote about this process several years ago and want to again comment on one of the transition stages that is particularly challenging for many of us.  I hear from people I work with all the time about this issue.  And having gone through a major transition in my own life, I can relate to the challenging dynamics of this stage quite well.

Utilizing Your Inside Team

How Each of Your Top Strengths Possesses a Voice of Wisdom You Need to Hear

Think for a minute of all the voices of authority that exist in your life. Your list most likely includes people you trust and admire, books by authors and experts, perhaps religious figures you know. We tend to put our trust (sometimes exclusively) in external authorities.

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Many of us were raised to distrust ourselves. We were told that we could easily be deceived or led astray by looking to self. So we often don’t stop to consider internal authorities.

But we should. And here’s why.

What Do You Want to Feel More of This Year?

Setting Feeling Goals and Why That's Crucial to Your Life

It’s that time of year again. An opportunity to consider what matters most to you as you chart your journey ahead. A time to reflect upon what kind of person you truly want to be as the year progresses. Your chance to choose what colors you want in your life.

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As I always do each year, I’ve been identifying feeling words for myself–what do I want to feel more of this year? And what intentions do I need to establish that will help me feel those words more deeply and completely?

Why is this practice important?

No Wind, No Sail

Three Ways to Face Your Difficulties that Make You Stronger

I know this to be true in sailing: no wind, no sail. Sailing is all about the challenge of leveraging the wind and seas in order to enjoy the journey and make it to your destination in good time.


And I know this to be true in life, as well. No wind, no sail. So here are three ways to leverage life’s winds for your benefit.

Finding Your Secure Identity

What American's Increasing Interest in Heritage Can Mean For You

I have a picture on my desk I love looking at. It’s of me when I was a small child, along with my whole family in Japan, with our Japanese nanny. Guess which one I am??

Nelsons in Toyama, Japan

The Nelsons in Toyama, Japan

Every time I look at this, it reminds me of who I am, where I’ve come from, and who I’ve come with. The memories of my growing up years in Japan flood my mind. I remember all the places we lived–what I enjoyed, the adventures, at each place (as far back as I can remember). It’s a huge piece of my own history. So I’m drawn to this picture again and again.

And guess which figure in the picture I spend the most time looking at? That little kid on the left. He looks so innocent and angelic, doesn’t he? Ha Ha. Notice that slight hint of mischievousness. What a dude! 🙂

Interestingly, Americans’ fascination with family history is rapidly growing.