What Do You Want to Feel More of This Year?

Setting Feeling Goals and Why That's Crucial to Your Life

It’s that time of year again. An opportunity to consider what matters most to you as you chart your journey ahead. A time to reflect upon what kind of person you truly want to be as the year progresses. Your chance to choose what colors you want in your life.

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courtesy of istockphoto.com/49283472

As I always do each year, I’ve been identifying feeling words for myself–what do I want to feel more of this year? And what intentions do I need to establish that will help me feel those words more deeply and completely?

Why is this practice important?

No Wind, No Sail

Three Ways to Face Your Difficulties that Make You Stronger

I know this to be true in sailing: no wind, no sail. Sailing is all about the challenge of leveraging the wind and seas in order to enjoy the journey and make it to your destination in good time.


And I know this to be true in life, as well. No wind, no sail. So here are three ways to leverage life’s winds for your benefit.

Finding Your Secure Identity

What American's Increasing Interest in Heritage Can Mean For You

I have a picture on my desk I love looking at. It’s of me when I was a small child, along with my whole family in Japan, with our Japanese nanny. Guess which one I am??

Nelsons in Toyama, Japan

The Nelsons in Toyama, Japan

Every time I look at this, it reminds me of who I am, where I’ve come from, and who I’ve come with. The memories of my growing up years in Japan flood my mind. I remember all the places we lived–what I enjoyed, the adventures, at each place (as far back as I can remember). It’s a huge piece of my own history. So I’m drawn to this picture again and again.

And guess which figure in the picture I spend the most time looking at? That little kid on the left. He looks so innocent and angelic, doesn’t he? Ha Ha. Notice that slight hint of mischievousness. What a dude! 🙂

Interestingly, Americans’ fascination with family history is rapidly growing.

Clarifying Your Calling Will Bring You A Lifetime of Empowerment

I’ve never heard anyone say it’s their Calling to be a janitor.

I’ve definitely known janitors who perform their work with passion and excellence. It inspires me. But as I’ve watched and listened to them talk about what they do, I’ve seen that their role isn’t their Calling. It’s why they do this role–what it is about what they do and how they do it–that helps to identify whether it’s a Calling or not.

I saw a wonderful story on a CBS Sunday Morning show that reminded me of how at times our calling and our job can collide and intersect in powerful ways. Watch this 2 minute clip about Charles Clark from Trinity High School in Euless, Texas, and let yourself be inspired!

Be the Thermostat Not the Thermometer: Practice Mindfulness

Have you noticed how often your mind is paying attention to either your past or your future? You tend to focus on regrets from choices or circumstances in your past or worries about your future.

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courtesy of istockphoto.com/kimkole

Truth is, most of us spend very little time in the present (which is, by the way, the only time we actually have for ourselves). Which means in practical terms that we are not fully present to enjoy that which matters most to us–our relationships, our work, our experiences, even our spirituality. And it means that what presence we do have is emanating a spirit of stress and worry that is invading from a point of time not even available to us–the past or the future.